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Help!! Ways to politely and effectively decline food!

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I'd like some effective tips on declining the food that my well-meaning friends always seem to push at me! I have tried the old "I ate too much for breakfast/lunch" thing but it doesn't seem to work very well on them. I know they mean well and care for me and everything, but I really wish that sometimes they'd get that no really means no and not yes! Yet I don't want to make a fuss or a big deal about it. So anyone have any good ideas??
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What i did is telling them that i have eaten, or just be honest that i'm on diet. I f they still force you, accept the food and keep it until they are gone, then throw it away or give it to somebody else :P
A polite "No Thankyou, I'm not hungry".  That might work.
My mom is the biggest food pusher on earth! She told me once after I got a bit snippy with her, that she equates love with food--and im sure a lot of us do. Let your friends know you care about them even if you don't want to eat what they are offering. With my mom, I had to get forceful, and a bit snippy, and told her that when I'm hungry, I will eat, not before.
you can always fake allergies - depending on what the food is... lactose intolerance, nut allergy...sulphites - who even know what sulphites are??!!

you can also do as princess says and give the food to someone else. it would make me feel really good to take a bag of forced-upon foods, package them up in cling wrap or tin foil and take the food to a random homeless person sitting on the street. a lot of people are afraid of the homeless, but i'd get down to their level and say "here, i just wanted to give you this..." and then walk away.

last resort - again, like princess said... be honest. tell people you are cal. counting - hey rave about this site! - and just tell your family/friends that unless you know the calorie content of the food, right now, you just can't eat it. that's what i told my family.

good luck!!
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Do it in a funny way.....I like to say, "oh I can't have that....I'm allergic...I break out in FAT!"

: )
I depends on who I'm talking to.  If it's a family member who does it continually, I sit down with them and ask them why they keep offering me food when I refuse.  They all know how I've struggled with my weight and how hard this is for me, so why would they want to discourage me?  They've just about stopped doing it, and nobody got mad at me.

If its' a casual aquaintance, I fib.  I say "that looks so delicious, but my tummy is bothering me, so better not."  It usually works. 
It sounds like you'll need to be direct; it might be difficult.  I had to sit down and say to my mom that when she repeatedly asks me about having something to eat or more that it makes me uncomfortable because I am really trying to change my behavior.  Most likely your friends don't realize what they are doing and until you are direct it is not likely to stop.

Its taken years for my mom to stop trying to force food on me, its the way she shows love - but she trys now that she knows how it effects me.  Try to keep in mind it really isn't personal, or about your weight, they want to make you comfortable - food can be very comforting for people.
"oh I can't have that....I'm allergic...I break out in FAT!"

Good one! (^_^)
If these are really good friends, I'm sure they won't mind at all if you explain to them that you are watching calories, and therefore will take a pass on whatever they're offering.  Hopefully, as friends, they will understand and will become your biggest supporters! :)

If you need a diplomatic way to approach it, though, try saying something like, "Oh, wow, you know how much I love that [insert food item here] that you make, but I am on a diet and really can't eat [food item] right now...."  If you have to be really diplomatic, I have also found that asking if you can just have a little taste usually makes people feel better, too.  Take a tiny bit - a small bite or half a fork-full, etc., and be sure to rave over how good it is.  But just be sure you truly do take a little taste and not a serving's worth. ;)
I usually just say, "No thanks. I'm losing weight."

Sure, a few people have then tried to feed me doughnuts, telling me it's just one. A few other people have pushed buttered sandwiches with gobs of mayo saying, "G'wan. My daughter made these. They're good." For the most part, I'm not making a big deal about things, so neither is anyone else. In fact, once most people realized I wasn't just jabbering on about losing weight, they became supportive.

I'm taking my clues from a friend who seems to be constantly fasting, purging or eliminating foods from her diet. Having this lady over for dinner requires serious planning. Going out for lunch with her is stressful.

Recently, we went out for lunch together at a sushi bar. I figured this would be a very safe place to meet up because most of the menu reads like a vegan's dream come true. In theory, ordering lunch should be a snap. Regrettably it wasn't because:

1. She can't eat white rice.
2. She can't eat rice that's been marinated.
3. She can't order the miso soup because she can't see how it was prepared. (It's a clear broth with a blob of miso swimming around. How do you THINK it's prepared?)
4. She can't eat avocado.
5. She can only eat nori if it is a specific grade.
6. She can't eat soy sauce.
7. She can't eat vegetables that have been marinated.

And my favourite:

8. She can't drink the water they serve because it's not filtered. (I suggested she let it off-gas and was curtly given a lecture on micro-organisms that cause bloating and liver dysfunction. Apparently dehydration is a better option.)

Note if you will, that the entire list is not about things she's avoiding or cutting back on, it's about "can't." I kept hoping she'd stop asking questions that sounded so negative and just order something off the menu (like, can I order some carrots that haven't been marinated?) but instead, she kept asking judgemental question after judgemental question until the placid waitress, who barely spoke enough English to understand, "I'll take the lunch special," looked murderous.

The main thing is that the bigger deal you make of things, the harder it is for people to take you seriously. State it once, state it with conviction, then stick to it. It's much easier for everyone to respect your boundaries if it's clear what they are.

For what it's worth, I order off the menu ALL the time. Pan-fried halibut can be poached without any problem, served with green salad instead of fries. Three-egg omelettes can be made without egg yolk and cheese, substitute pan fries for fruit. Not that my restaurant habits have anything to do with your co-workers and friends... I'm just saying that what drags out a problem is wasting people's time dancing about it. (That's directed at my friend, not at you.)
Do it in a funny way.....I like to say, "oh I can't have that....I'm allergic...I break out in FAT!"

: )

I am going to have to remember that one...that is good.
My gramma used to always want to push dessert on me... I learned that I could say, "Sure Gramma, I want a piece of pie, but I'm just so full right now, could you set is aside for me for later?" She always smiled and did so - and I just always "forgot" to ask for it later.

Can you use this with your friends??
I've found for me just a simple "No thank you" repeated if necessary is the most effective.  If you offer up explanations it almost seems to make the ones around me more persistent so I just keep repeating "No thank you" 
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Love the break out in fat answer.... :) But just a firm but polite "no thank you" and dont give in. They will get it after a few times.
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