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Dating - Who said "I Love You" first & how long hand you know each other?

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Dating - Who said "I Love You" first & how long hand you know each other?

I wondering what other folks experience/context with this is because in the past it's usually been about the 5 month mark in my prior relationships.
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Umm... I said I love you first, after, like, the first month.

When did we first say it and really, you know, know what the heck we were talking about? I don't remember... We both came into this relationship with very different experiences. I was unexperienced and she had a very bad past relationship. We both really "Became a couple" probably somewhere around month 5 or 6

I was first. Said it to my husband twenty-one years ago before we were even dating. I meant it, he knew it, the rest was kismet.

My ex didn't say it after 8 months and me saying it at around 5. I asked him about it finally and he said he wasn't going to love me.

nice, huh?

Interested to see the other response =]

With my DH, it was about 4 months in.  He said it first.  I don't think he intended to say it yet but he had been thinking about it.  One evening we were out at a bar getting drunk and he got really emotional and blurted it out.  Had we not been drunk and silly he probably would have waited.  :)  But, that's OK!  I was in love with him since the first date but too shy to say it...

I did, and I am proud of it because I am usually very guarded. We were a "couple" about 1 month in, I am not sure when the I love you happened but I think it was around my birthday which would have been like 5 months, right on target ;)

We both felt it, and knew the other did too, but we were just holding back a little...and when i said it he said it back, and I knew it was true. Bliss!

This is how it went down.

We were just about to have sex for the first time, and he said, "Wait, before we do this, I need to say something...I want to know if you're thinking what I'm thinking though too..."

And me, being my smart ass self said, "Well, yeah, but where are we going to get an elephant sized tutu Brain?"

He smacked my arm lightly and laughed, "You know what I mean!"

I laughed too, "Yeah, I do...I love you too."

"I love you."

"I love you."


And there was sex. That was about a month into knowing each other, but only a week after having met in person. We're both sluts, but we're still together almost 2 years later. D'aw internet love. ♥

My most recent experience...

Going out/chillin whatever it's called four weeks. She said it after drinking. She'd had a blast saying only one other person had ever seen her act so silly and it was the silliest/craziest time she'd had since she was 17. I said it back.

I said it first, he said it back. Five years later we've been married for 2.5 years. Smile

About a month in.  He blurted it out before sex.  I remember being relieved and thinking, "Thank god you said it first..."

My husband was originally just some hot guy who came into my work to put in an application, then a hot co-worker, then we started hanging out after work and developed an amazing friendship. We realized we had a ton in common and loved spending time together, ended up becoming literally inseperable, and drunkenly confessed feelings for each other after a few weeks, drunkenly made out a few times, and then had a sober talk where we decided to both break things off with our current significant others and start dating. We became a couple literally 10 minutes after I broke up with my boyfriend, and had sex for the first time about 10 minutes after that... haha. We were officially together about a week before we said the I love yous... but we had been insperable for about 2 months at that point. We've been together almost 3 years, and have been married over 2 years.

Edited to add: He said it first. We were snuggled up on a couch and he said "I need to tell you something and I've been trying to say it all day... I love you." :)

With one guy it was about 6 months.  He said it first, I reciprocated. 

In my current relationship, neither of us has said it yet, and I know I won't be first.  It's only been about 4 months though.  I do know that I would say it back.  I kind of feel like we've already passed that point though, just by the way we treat each other, and other things we've said. 

I have always been the more emotionally reserved person in my relationships.  It's not that I don't feel it, but that I don't say it, so in order to be in a relationship with me, you have to be good at interpreting actions.

Last time I said it first, we had know each other for nearly three years and I said quitely so her husband wouldn't hear me.
I said it first.  We were out dancing and had been dating for about 5 months.  He saw his ex at the place we were at but didn't even go up to her to say hi.  And I didn't emit any fear that I was upset she was there.  I looked reallllly good that night and it was a thin night; and I was pretty tipsy and just didn't care.  I was sitting on a bar stool laughing and I told him I loved him.  He kissed me on the forehead but didn't say it back.  I didn't really care since I was glad he just knew how I felt.  To be honest; I don't remember the exact first time he said it; and he verrry rarely says it first.  VERY rarely.  But it's OK becuase when I hear it; I get all silly inside and melty.  I'll tell him a lot; and he'll say it back in his own way- I've accepted this!!!  We dated for five years and have been married over 2.5 years.

Hubby (then my boyfriend) said it first, sort of.  He was giving me a back massage, and just sneakily wrote it on my back.  I perked up and asked "What was that?", and he wrote it again.  I then turned around to look at him and said "What?"  Then he actually verbally said it.   We had known each other for about a year, but only dating for about 6 months of that time.  I immediately said that I loved him too.

He knew that I had a previous relationship in which the guy point blank looked at me and said it, but I didn't return the feelings, and I just felt weird/awful/nervous/scummy when all I could do was smile, say "Wow" and give him a hug.  Later I found out he wrote it  because if I didn't return his feelings, it allowed me to stealithy ignore it without sitting there in the awkward position of me going "hmm, er," and him feeling mortally embarrassed.  

I told my husband I loved him before we started dating. I know, that seems weird, but it felt like the right thing to do. He didn't love me back then, but it didn't take long after that. I think I shocked him by just coming out and saying it, but I knew I did. And I had actually known for years before that.

That was years ago, at the time, I think I had known him for 3 years. Now we have been together for 8 years and married for 5 of those 8 years. I guess I made the right choice all those years ago.

We had been dating about 6-7 weeks, when he came down to drop me off at my college (4 hours away from him) 3 days later when he left to go back home he wrote a letter on my computer that I wasn't allowed to read until he had left.  At the end of the letter was an 'I love you'. 

A month later when I went up to visit him, dancing at an opening night gala of my favorite musical I wispered 'I love you' in his ear. 

We survived 2 years of long distance and now almost 5 years later, I love him even more. 

I said it first to my BF.  We had dated for a few months..then we officially were boyfriend/girlfriend after about 3months.  I felt it way before then but didn't say it til New Years, and we had been togehter for 7  He loves me too, and I knew he did before I said it. But he had he heart broke very badly, and I knew it was hard for him. I am just glad I am the one who repaired his heart :)  We have now been together for a year!!

And I actually have known him for about 6 years...he just always had a steady girlfriend ::)

I had a very bad relationship prior to meeting my fiance so I was really hesitant to make anything official or even to admit things to myself.  We were pretty much living together (we each maintained our own places, but we spent every day and night together) for about three months before I called him my "boyfriend".  I think he told me that he loved me about a month or so after that.  I said it to him around six months.  He's been really great about letting me come to terms with everything in my own time.  He didn't care what title I gave him so long as we were together.

Well, with my husband, I made the mistake of telling him I loved him after about 2 months of being together every day, that kind of love.  He just looked at me and said "You do?"  I felt like a blithering idiot.

2 months later he looked at me and said "I love you" and I thought he was messing with me.  And laughed.

True story.

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