So by my estimate... given that i am surrounded by small towns with zero employment opportunities combined with Michigan's sh*t hole economy i will probably be living in my parents basement till i am 24-25 years of age. Do you think thats too old considering my situation?
And just so i can get a relative idea of how old it is, i would like to know when you moved out, permanently, thank you :)
But if you plan to NOT work and still live with your parents, I must say, that really isn't a good plan. I'm not sure what kind of legal trouble you are having, but if you want to be independent, you can't always be picky about your jobs..
If it is comfortable at home I think your fine. Eventually you'll start making enough money to afford a place of your own. I have friends who have lived at home into their lates 20's early 30's to save money for a downpaymnet on a home. Seems a better idea than renting some dump.
I am also unhappy trying to have a relationship with my b/f, as it stands, he is not allowed in our home due to a complex set of events. I am not allowed to stay where he lives (his sisters) because she is.. I don't know crazy. So I can't even go over there on a regular basis. He is paying rent and he can't even have his g/f over, how sad is that.
So I want to move in with him and a co-worker of mine. I have no idea what I'm doing XD. I'm worried about everything, including money, location, and who is going to buy the coffee maker. I think it's acceptable to live at home until you have a career, it's just really hard to have a serious relationship when you're living with your parents.
my only chance is to find a job with another larger city thats 40 minutes away (i go to college there), and even then its still tough to find anything because nobody is hiring.
Once you leave and have your independence it's nearly impossible to stay with your parents.
I think you can find any job and support yourself. It's not that hard. You can work retail, health care, hell even fast food (although I wouldn't recommend that one) and get the life experience you need for the rest of your life.
You can't stay at your mom's and leave at 25 and then suddenly magically have a great awesome job and know what to do with it. You have to learn how to pay bills, time management, and how to deal with blows. Life is not easy once you are on your own. You don't have anyone to rely on but yourself.
It doesn't make you a loser if you stay home until you are 25. My fiance did, and now I have to take care of all the bills because his mom did everything for him. He doesn't know how to deal with blows and stresses out easily, where as I take everything in stride.
If you move out around 22 and just work on trying to be an adult it will be easier for you once you do get your dream job!
You can't jump from teenager to adult though. That would be way to hard for you!
I think it's a mistake to wait for a "dream job" in your field before moving out.
I do NOT think it's a mistake to live with your parents while you are finishing school, assuming you are going to school full-time and are a serious student. (None of this "professional student to avoid becoming a grown-up" stuff; I think that's just pathetic and think the parents who allow it need to learn something about the point of parenting.)
I think it's a mistake to move in with an SO directly from your parents' home.
I think it's not a mistake to work part-time while going to school. I think if one is working, over the age of 18, and living at home, one has an obligation to assist with living expenses and household chores, including cooking dinner once or twice a week, shopping for groceries, and doing all one's own laundry and cleaning up whatever messes one has made, in addition to being responsible for one's spending money and general expenses. One should also do one's own taxes and be responsible in other adult ways.
Whew! I do have a few opinions about this, don't I? :-D
I was 21, and moved out to start grad school.
God help me if I ever have to move back in. Even when I go home to visit I want out within a few days.
I moved out of my mum's place a few months before my 17th birthday. Into a big flat with my now-husband. It was a process... i spent more time at his than my mum's and then my mum was moving house and asked if i wanted to move out. So i did . And that was just over three years ago. I know i shall be moving in with my mum for a few weeks when i finish uni... just so that i can find a job and a house back in my hometown (it's easier when you're there!). Aside that, i doubt i'll be moving back in.
If i hadn't met my husband when i was so young i probably wouldn't have moved out (aside uni) till i was around 23-25. Given your situation i don't see it's anything odd.
After I moved out they sold the house for a shade less than they bought it for, only to have the market explode the next year. Now the place is worth at least twice what they sold it for.
It's not so bad when you know you will move out, it's just a matter of when because of a job situation......
it's totally different when people just don't want to be on their own, won't/can't afford their own bills, or just plain like having their parents take care of them.
24/25 is FINE, don't think you are strange in any way! It's when you hit 30-ish that you need to worry ;)