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Pointless whinge - sister keeps eating my food!

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This is just a bit of a pointlss vent really, but my sister keeps eating all my food! Lol. I'm sure all the other recovering anorexics here know that it can take a while to build up the courage to eat 'fear' foods. Well I've been trying to challenge myself. I brought home a brownie the other day, then a muffin, and today, easter eggs.

But have I actually gotten to eat any of them? No. By the time I've talked myself into it and go to the fridge, a certain someone has gotten there before me and eaten the lot! Undecided It just keeps happening. I know she's not doing it on purpose - she just doesn't understand why it's a big deal to me.

I'm anticipating being told to use it as motivation to eat whatever it is straight away, but it's not working like that, quite the opposite. I almost suspect ED of finding excuses not to eat it until she comes home and snarfles it - and then I regret having waited.

I'll sort it out, I know. Just a bit of a vent Smile

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Well, you can at least feel good that your sister is not showing any signs of being on the restriction eating disorder spectrum alongside you.

In all seriousness, this is a difficult problem and one that might be best resolved with a separate small fridge in your room (out of bounds and off limits to your sister). However, it could simply rot away there with no checks and balances on needing to eat it either.

Your eating disorder generates anxiety. Anxiety is physiologically uncomfortable and it drives us to avoid the anxiety stimulus. So anything that gives you an avoidant excuse is working in the eating disorder's favor.

Sometimes the fear food has to sit on that plate in front of the patient for quite some time while the patient battles the desire to walk away and avoid the anxiety. So, it's understandable that you may not quite be ready to gulp it down as soon as you buy it, but you still need to let the anxiety be there without giving into those old and very practiced ED avoidant behaviors.

Don't put it away and walk away. Sit with it until your sister comes home. Watch it like a hawk. Let the anxiety wash over you (it will subside if you resist the urge to avoid it). Then reward yourself for doing so by splitting the goodie with your sister when she gets home.

Then the next time you get two goodies -- one for you and one for your sister. Rope her into helping you sit with the challenge of these fear foods -- make her your ally.

By involving her (she gets goodies out of it!) you also create an accountability that forms the basis of how we can all be successful in following through on goals we have set for ourselves.

Anyhow, I am sure your involved professionals will have plenty more suggestions, but perhaps these ideas will get you thinking.

Best of luck on your continued efforts to recovery fully!

I'm not in recovery, I'm actually losing weight but I had the same problem.  My old roommate used to CONSTANTLY eat my "good" foods.  All my apples, vegetables, baked potato chips (c'mon, a healthy alternative too the latter..=) and finally I did just as hedgren said..I got a small fridge in my room with a lock.  A bit drastic but weird how I started actually getting too eat my food and saved a TON of money because I wasn't constantly buying new food. :)

I've had exactly the same problem! I would bring food home, go to work or out for the day, then I'd come home and all or most of it would be gone. Between my sister and my parents 'goodies' don't last long in our house. I finally asked for just one shelf in the kitchen to keep my food on, which I got. So now they know that if it's on that shelf, they're not to eat it. Unfortunately I couldn't get space in the fridge but I just cover my stuff in labels so they can't unknowingly eat my food there either.

Thankfully my family is respectful of this - they're just happy to see me eating at all so are more then willing to leave my food alone when they know it's mine. And as I've told them before, ask and I will most likely share...just don't take without permission!

I like the mini fridge idea though, that's a good one too!

muffins brownies candies dont need to go in the fridge really,  all though i am not recommending that u hide/horde them either,,,,, been there done that,  really talk with your sister,  i dont know here age but  sharing this will be helpful.

My sister always eats my foods too and i DO have my own shelf/ freezer draw and area of the fridge. In addition to that i have certain foods which are kinda accepted to be mine/ bought just for me by me and yet she still finds them.

I have tried talking to her and it didnt work but i would recommend this as the first step. Maybe she is more thoughtful than my sister.

Failing that you could either write your name on the products (a genial reminder) or buy a mini fridge (as suggested above)

I kinda know that my reaction when people eat my foods is abnormal and its normal to share foods so i think we should look at it as part of the recovery process - no longer putting food on a pedestal.

*Sympathy hugs*

And I thought I was the only one who went through this problem! I don't have an ED but have always been underweight & trying to gain. Wasn't until a year or so ago that I found out how to gain properly on my own.

Anyways, the only thing that I have found to stop people eating my food is to keep it out their sights! You might feel selfish/greedy doing this, I know I do, but sometimes people just fail to understand that they are actually being very selfish themselves! I don't think they understand that someone who is trying to gain weight has much different dietary needs to them, especially if it's a person recovering from anorexia nervosa.

I remember how much it used to infuriate me when my dad used to eat these specific yogurts that I would buy because they were high in calories, even when I reminded him that he shouldn't be eating them for his own health problems since he's diabetic, has high cholesterol etc he would still eat them! I eventually stopped buying them and switched to snacks that could be kept in my room without need for a fridge.


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