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The Lounge Rockie Mountain chat, Colorado Jun 22 2015
15:33 (UTC)
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Original Post by shepard2826:

I am just anxious about seeing anyone in case they decide I need treatment and they want to take him away. No one else can take care of him because I'm the only one that can properly sing Lion King to him. *nods nods* Very serious business, Lion King. 

They don't take babies away from mothers who are having ppd or anxiety. They just don't.

I saw bbj mentioned melatonin - I was having anxiety and learned via Dr. Google that for certain types of sleep issues, melatonin is the opposite of what you want to be taking. A few months ago, I was dealing with anxiety that was making getting to sleep terrible for me, and I saw my doctor, who rx'd lorazepam for a little, then I weaned off it and moved to valerian root, then weaned myself off of that.

Start with the doctor, but if you end up pursuing more "natural" remedies, do some research to make sure that it's the right one for you.

The Lounge Damian Lewis to play 007?!! Jun 19 2015
18:57 (UTC)
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Original Post by santonacci:

Original Post by catwalker:

I can't decide whether Timothy Dalton or Pierce Brosnan was the worst Bond ever.

IMO, neither, as I think it was Roger Moore.  I also think that too often Dalton gets a bad rap - his portrayal actually came the closest to the book version of Bond.

Was Moore in the one where he escapes by sledding down the hill in the woman's cello case? That was horrible.

The Lounge Damian Lewis to play 007?!! Jun 19 2015
18:49 (UTC)
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Original Post by catwalker:

I can't decide whether Timothy Dalton or Pierce Brosnan was the worst Bond ever.

Dalton was way worse than Brosnan.

I will watch a Bond movie with Damian Lewis. I wasn't sold on Craig when I first heard of him set to play Bond, and I thought he did well (and was more attractive in the role than I thought he was from initial pictures).

I liked Orlando Bloom in LOTR. I liked him in Pirates. He is NOT a Bond. Don't care how he wears his hair. Not going to happen. No. Please, no.

Health & Support What should I be concerned about? Jun 19 2015
16:10 (UTC)
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First and foremost, that percentage does not reflect you being over-fat, it reflects that you are under-muscled.

What method was used to come up with your body fat percentage?

Assuming it's correct (big assumption), I would say that being underweight is still the concern - as you recover, you will gain muscle that was lost during your eating disorder, and that will help lower your bf%. That doesn't NOT require you to lose fat. At all. Doing so would be counter every single goal of recovery.

Health & Support Ovulation??!! Jun 19 2015
14:35 (UTC)
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White sticky discharge is not a sign of ovulation. The mucus you would get around ovulation (normally) looks more like egg whites - as Macy said, it's stretchy and almost or entirely clear.

White/sticky would come at other times during your cycle. It doesn't mean that you are getting your period, but it could mean that. If you were breastfeeding, that can decrease any type of cervical mucus (CM), and even if you are still breastfeeding, as your child is moving more towards eating more food and nursing less, that could cause a return of CM. Also, the increased fat intake and less stress could play a role.

Weight Loss BMR Confusing Jun 18 2015
15:10 (UTC)
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Original Post by prettyleelee:

I guess I am wondering how many calories would you eat if my BMR is about 2100.

Again, it isn't. The 1800 that you posted in #4 is correct. BMR is not the same as sedentary burn, which is what 2100 is

Weight Loss BMR Confusing Jun 18 2015
11:57 (UTC)
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Original Post by thhq:

The principle here is to eat more than the minimum of 1200 calories per day, not eat your BMR. When I was obese and losing 2 lbs/week I underate my BMR but respected the 1500 calorie minimum for men.

That's your principle, it isn't everyone's here.

Eating 1200 is not appropriate for most women - just because it is the bare minimum for a small elderly woman does not mean that it's appropriate for a 31 year old who is doing boot camp workouts.

The Lounge Black like me...... Jun 17 2015
20:13 (UTC)
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Original Post by santonacci:

Original Post by gotborked:

Original Post by kathygator:

As Santo said Bork, neither of us is aware of what Michelle may or may not have experienced in her formative years. What you and I both know for certain is the color of her skin, all her life. Does that make her imminently more qualified to speak about the black experience than Dolezal? I think the answer is yes.

Well, what you and I also both know is that if she did ever suffer some significant race-based discrimination growing up, we would've heard about it.  ...after all, she felt the need to tell us of suffering the indignity of being asked (by a white woman!!!!) to help get something off the top shelf at Target :D

Well, she's briefly mentioned her history before, but it's not exactly documented.

What's your deal with the FLOTUS?  She can't experience racism because she's educated?

Yes. Don't you know that educated people never experience racism?

The Lounge Black like me...... Jun 17 2015
20:12 (UTC)
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Original Post by santonacci:

Original Post by amethystgirl:

If a trans woman was the head of a group associated with women's rights, would we feel that she would be required to state publicly (or on her job application) that she had been born male? Or would we feel that it's her right not to share anything she doesn't want to?

Of it would be their right to not share their background.  But if, say, during an interview or talking with co-workers they describe their experience of being told they couldn't be an astronaut because they were a girl, then I don't it can be considered confidential or irrelevant anymore.

And I gave examples of the lies that Dolezal has told regarding her childhood earlier in the thread.  More recently, she's apparently claiming that there's "no biological proof" that she's related to her white parents.  Which is probably true - most parents don't have DNA testing results at the ready.

ETA: And I did not mean to imply that you were bring Jenner into it.  I just wanted to draw the distinction between the two.

I guess I want to be careful going to far into "she's a lying liar who lies" because I think many would claim that trans people are lying about who they are too - or have a personality disorder, or similar things that we'd get mad about.

I'm not comfortable drawing the line, or telling people how "honest" they have to be, or when, or to whom.  If a trans person were asked during an interview what gender they were, I don't think many of us would bat an eye if they answered that they were their professed gender, and I think that we would be giving a very big side-eye to parents who outed their child as not being born the gender that they claim to be.

If she claimed that she grew up in a teepee, and she didn't, then yeah, she's a lying liar who lies about that. But who am I to say she doesn't truly and inately feel that she is black?  If she refers to a black man as her father, perhaps she feels that he is more of a father figure than her biological father was.  I don't know if her parents beat her, but if they had adopted several black children, maybe they did receive racist hate mail.

The Lounge Black like me...... Jun 17 2015
19:28 (UTC)
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Original Post by santonacci:

Original Post by amethystgirl:

Original Post by santonacci:

If she wants to identify as black and be a social justice warrior, fine - but she should at least be honest about it.

But we wouldn't expect a trans person to explain that the gender they portray themselves as was not the same as the biological sex they were born as.

Well, of course not.  The only reason why anyone is talking about Dolezal is because of her parents coming forward with the information and the fact that she was an NAACP official.

I don't really "expect" a transgender person to explain anything to me at all - they don't owe me anything.  But if they go public with a history (seemingly) meant to bolster their credibility with any chosen activism, that credibility is lost if it's all a lie.

Caitlyn Jenner hasn't lied about who she used to be, so I consider the insistence by some to equate her with Dozezal to be quite unfounded.

And someone's going to have to explain to me why someone being Irish on St. Patrick's day should compel anyone to kiss them.  If that's suddenly a compulsory thing now, then yeah, I want to see the family tree. 

I specifically didn't bring up Caitlyn Jenner. She was a public figure before her transition, and she made the decision to publicly announce her transition.  I did not equate her to this story. I know you said "by some" but you were replying to me.

If a trans woman was the head of a group associated with women's rights, would we feel that she would be required to state publicly (or on her job application) that she had been born male? Or would we feel that it's her right not to share anything she doesn't want to?

I don't know what history Dolezal told people about herself. I know that she dressed herself in a certain way, and wore her hair in a certain way, that would allow people to think that she was black.  But I admit, I haven't been following this closely - what else did she do or say?

Weight Loss BMR Confusing Jun 17 2015
18:47 (UTC)
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Original Post by prettyleelee:

Original Post by amethystgirl:

This site doesn't tell you your BMR directly, so whatever number you are seeing, it isn't your BMR.

If you share your stats, people can help.

1828 from a BMR Calculator

Yep, that's correct. 2100 (or thereabouts) is your sedentary burn. If you workout 5-6 days a week, you aren't sedentary.

Eat at least 1800. If you are moderately active, you are burning ~2700, and you'd have a deficit of 900. Not quite 2lb/week, but close. And since there's always some estimating when it comes to burn, you might have to try it and see.

2lb/week is the max you should aim for, but it might be too aggressive.  Perhaps aiming for a range (1.5-2lb/week) would be better.

The Lounge Black like me...... Jun 17 2015
18:39 (UTC)
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Original Post by santonacci:

If she wants to identify as black and be a social justice warrior, fine - but she should at least be honest about it.

But we wouldn't expect a trans person to explain that the gender they portray themselves as was not the same as the biological sex they were born as.

Then again, I don't know what stories Delezal told about her background. I would find it dishonest if she told stories that suggested that she grew up as a black child, just like I would find it dishonest if a trans person told stories about growing up as a boy, if they had been a girl, and didn't transition until later. But I wouldn't expect that to make national news.

I think that it's interesting to hear how people view race... but I also think far too much energy is going into whether this one woman is "allowed" to claim to be a member of a race that she (biologically) isn't.

I also wonder if we should start going after anyone who wears a "Kiss me I'm Irish" shirt on St Patrick's Day without proof of their Irish heritage.

Weight Loss BMR Confusing Jun 17 2015
18:31 (UTC)
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This site doesn't tell you your BMR directly, so whatever number you are seeing, it isn't your BMR.

If you share your stats, people can help.

The Lounge Black like me...... Jun 17 2015
14:10 (UTC)
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Original Post by amwick:

Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

This isn't true for all multiracial people and I didn't say that it was. President Obama could maybe pass for White with a lot of makeup, a wig and/or a blind audience. People call him African-American instead of multiracial because that matches his appearance. He doesn't have a choice about his appearance but many do.

And I think in recent years, more multi-racial people are choosing to identify as multi-racial, instead of as one or the other. 

But on some forms, that's not an option and you have to choose. People often choose the one that matches their appearance.

I think he identifies himself as a black man.  I don't ever recall him insisting he was biracial.  Actually, I don't recall him discussing much of his upbringing in Hawaii, although he likes to go there on vacation.

Really? The fact that his mother was white is widely known, and never needed to be "insisted" upon.  And Obama's birth in Hawaii has been well established, thanks to the completely insane, "birther" conspiracy theorists.

*FWIW, "African American" doesn't mean that the person isn't multiracial. It just means an American who has African heritage.

The Lounge does your man avoid sex due to your weight gain Jun 16 2015
15:30 (UTC)
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I read that, but I have no clue what it was supposed to say.

Health & Support Running and amenorrhea? Jun 15 2015
20:21 (UTC)
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But getting your period back can't be the only reason you have for wanting to recover, right?

The Lounge No crying and No falling in love Jun 12 2015
20:44 (UTC)
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Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

That's just like a human to only consider mouse-on-human crime and not mouse-on-mouse crime, which is what I was talking about.

 

 

harumph

There is no mouse-on-mouse crime. Haven't you ever seen An American Tail?

 

*Note, I've never seen An American Tail. But it's about mice. Right?

The Lounge A flamboyant thread w/ razzle dazzle about the 2016 presidential primary elections Jun 12 2015
20:33 (UTC)
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Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

Original Post by amethystgirl:

Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

I like this cartoon with merged campaigns.

Can't decide if I like "Christabee" or "Bushio" better. "Paulker" and "Santerina" are pretty good too. They ran out of ideas once they reached "Trumpcarson"

Agree. Maybe they were under deadline.

I think Carump would have been better.

:)

Ooh, that's good. Or Catrump?

"Carump" is what an old man says when he hoists himself out of his easy chair. "Catrump" is... y'know... a feline's behind.

The Lounge A flamboyant thread w/ razzle dazzle about the 2016 presidential primary elections Jun 12 2015
20:17 (UTC)
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Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

I like this cartoon with merged campaigns.

Can't decide if I like "Christabee" or "Bushio" better. "Paulker" and "Santerina" are pretty good too. They ran out of ideas once they reached "Trumpcarson"

The Lounge No crying and No falling in love Jun 12 2015
19:09 (UTC)
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Disagree.

The crime.

The evidence.

The defendant.

The judge, jury, and executioner.

The punishment.

 

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