To me, admitting to my friends and family that I'm on a diet, feels like I'm admitting I'm fat, or that I'm overly image conscious, or that I'm becoming 'one of those girls', the ones my friends and I scoff at because they wear too much make-up, and worry too much about what other people think. But yeah, actually, I am kinda worried about what other people think, and I suppose my diet is a little bit image related... BUT WHOSE DIET ISN'T?!?
It makes dieting about 10 times more stressful not telling people, because then they're always offering you contraband foods, and you have to make excuses...
Does anyone else feel embarrassed about admitting to other people that they're on a diet?
But fortunately for me I don't care what people think or say ..
You shouldn't either.
Theres nothing wrong with trying to be healthy
and if people aren't there to support you,
what's the use of them ?
You should just feel good about yourself and not worry about what they think.
Fortunately my friends are good natured, and although I get hooted at and laughed at for my 'horse chow', which a carry with me in my purse (it's even embarrassing to write it, lol), they often tell me I have amazing will power.
Anyways, yes, I agree, at times it is embarrassing it's all part of the process. If you have good friends/family you should be able to embarrass yourself in front of them. IT'S WORTH IT!
First you should not look at it as a "diet". These are hopefully lifestyle chages so you should call it "food modification program". I used to be very embarassed by admitting that I needed to lose weight..and very defensive too. I would say the same thing to people as you did. Now I just tell them "That's not on my menu for today"...or you can just tell them that you are being a bit more aware of what you put in your mouth.
There is nothing wrong about wanting to better yourself and if it starts with what you eat, then so be it. Who knows...your dedication to wanting to better yourself could change someone else. For the most part, I could care less about what people say about me changing my eating habits. They don't have to live in my body...I DO.
I no longer find it as stressfull. I like the new choices I make about what to eat. Even watching what i eat...I make sure I have lots of variety.
Well I hope that helps
I love that Soare, how you carry baggies of carrots and nuts in your purse - that's gotta take some guts to drag those out in a bar! Good for you!
I guess you're right, in time I'll probably gain a little more confidance, and be more open about it. (I telling them is inevitable anyway - my friends are catching on, I've told them I didn't like chocolate sherbert, and caramal chip cookies one too many times - or else they'll conclude I've gone insane - one or the other)
Also, its more natural when your older, because then people EXPECT you to be responsible and watch your health.
Anyway, stand strong. I say, just go tell them all, you'll feel better, and i bet you anything they're supportive. good luck.
You don't have to say the words "I'm on a diet". In fact, I don't like those words either because they relate too much to self-image instead of lifestyle changes. I use the following excuses:
-I'm not hungry
-I'm trying to eat healthy (my favorite b/c it focuses on positive food choices instead of weight)
-No thanks, I just ate
-I don't really like those
-Oh no, I've already had way too much junk food today! (even if its not true)
All of these focus on your own food needs or the food itself. Therefore, its not really an insult to the one preparing it or offering it (unless you are saying you don't like it). Either way, those are some alternatives.
I've recently found that a simple, "No, thanks. I'm trying to eat healthier" or, "I'm already stuffed!" works without speculation.
I usually compliment whoever cooked it and then say I'm afraid I ate so much I can't manage another bite. One of my cousins insists on sending some home with me, and I thank her and toss it in the garbage at the first opportunity.
Anyway, I don't call it a diet. I call it a lifestyle change. I'm going to be eating this way for the rest of my life, not just for now. If they ask me about it, I just say I've had to change the way I eat for my health. Can't argue with that!
Good attitude, that's what I use to say too :)
The other day I was out with some friends at work and used that phrase when it was time for dinner. However I don't think they know I am counting cals(hate the word diet ^^). I ate that fried chicken like there was no tomorrow, they are just wondering how the heck I am losing weight, I let them wonder on for some time I guess :)
I agree with clairelane and others that it is not a "diet", its a healthy lifestyle. I never tell people I am on a diet or that I am dieting...usually because everyone tells me I don't need to be on a diet. But, if I tell them I am trying to live the healthy lifestyle, then its no big deal. I'm just being a health-nut.
If people start pushing food on you, just tell them you are exercising later and you can't exercise on a full stomach. Works for me every time.
i agree with clairelane and yalcekim. being "on a diet" allows suggests that it will end at some point - either when you have reached your goal or when you give up on it. living "a healthy lifestyle" implies that it will continue for good.