hay guys, Ok first time i have told anyone about this, so its quite a thing for me to sit here and type to god knows how many of you...
I realy have a problem with my feet.. i.. i will sit there and pick them untill they bleed. I pull bits of skin off and i sometimes can hobble for days as the heel is red raw with skin missing, and i never let it grow back - if it does im picking at it again, oepning new cuts on my feet.
iI have done it for years now.. almost 3. Its jsut a habit, and even if it hurts if the skin is coming off i will tug at it untill its completly off..
er do i need help or am i not alone? I dont know what made me post this.. other than the fact i was jsut doing it right now and thought i better tell SOMEONE im doing it..
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Sometimes when you have a problem like this, it's better to focus on the source and not the symptom. Sure, try things that will help you stop picking at your feet, like wearing socks 24/7, but try going after the stress, and the feet picking may reduce on its own. You don't have to "feel" stressed out in order to have too much stress. I tend to ignore stressors, and bottle feelings. This makes me not pay attention to the stress, but it doesn't make it go away, it just hides it. At one point in my life, I was actually having panic attacks, and I consciously didnā??t know why!
There are some easy things that you can do to help stress levels. Have a daily walk. Walking even just 30 minutes a day really reduces stress. Give meditation a try. Make sure you are getting proper nutrition, and consider adding a good multi-vitamin to your routine.
I still have a little trouble with my fingers, but better diet, walking, and a little meditation have done wonders. Iā??ve stopped biting my nails altogether, and I donā??t bite the skin near as badly as I had been. Now I can paint my nails and not feel like I have to hide my hands!
I used to be ashamed to show my nails/fingers but now I have nice fingers and nails and I sometimes would take pictures of them when I have a nice design on them.
For feet, try a pedicure and at home use pumice stone. I use pumice stone everyday and my heels are always smooth.
My mom used to pick her heel skins all the time when I was a kid and now she doesn't do it anymore but she has very very rough heels and she can't wear sandals/slingback ! Think about what you're missing out!
I'm glad I am not the only one who had that disgusting habit. I thought I was a weirdo.
Like, I do the same to my feet, but I don't consider it even in the same category as cutting myself. I put it next to trichotillomania (hair pulling) yeah...I have some pretty bad habits :(
The site the guy posted a ways back describes it exactly: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dermatillomania
i have been picking at my feet ever since i was around 15 or so. i am 33 now. i have become damn near a professional expert at it. reading the stories that you guys have about it has really brought home a lot of things about it for me.
i can completely relate to the stress relief and the ritual aspects of it. here are some of the things that i do. I retreat to the bathroom, I lock the door and then I grab a pair of finger nail clippers. From that point I push them up against the very thick parts of the heel of my foot and start removing skin in little sections. this also gives me a good starting point on the flesh for some quality digging and tuggig. then i self consume it. you can not believe the shame that this nasty little secret causes me. it really makes me feel like a disgusting person.
at the same time though, i always thought it was just kind of a manageable tic. use the clippers, i pick at it with fingernails, i pull off sections of my heel skin... and yes i even eat it. the entire process is revolting, and makes me feel like a revolting person.
however, because i was not limping. because i was not catching infections and disease through the wounds i was causing myself, because it seemed somehow 'manageable' i did not view it as being problematic.
it is though. it is a stress relief mechanisim. it is most assuredly not a healthy behavior. it only affects my feet, and sometimes i will bite at the skin next to my fingernails..but i keep that in check as it looks terrible. the foot picking is a disgusting habbit. but it is not what is destructive. what is destructive is the shame i get into about it, and the fact that i am not dealing with other things in my life in a productive and healthy manner.
that took a lot for me to write out. i am going to seek real help with this, as i know it is something that i can not address on my own. i want to thank you guys for talking about it openly. while i realize that my case may be at bit extreme, i am going to address it.
Wait, actually, I remember starting to bite my nails after reading the Bernstein bears book about nail-biting. The cure involved money, and I thought, "hey, I want money." My parents never did that cure. Nail biting progressed to nail peeling (instead of biting, I would use my other nails instead) and about that same time I started making hangnails.
NewSkin helps my thumbs heal but it doesn't actually stop the habit. When it wears off, I'm back to bleeding.
For a while I tried to substitute another type of picking habit so that I could break it. I picked flossing my teeth because I thought that the end result was healthier and it still served to try to "rid myself of imperfections." That sort of worked but if I have a really stressful day I just go straight to my arms, sweaters or long sleeved shirts be damned.
When I got together with my current boyfriend I had the urge to stop picking at my arms because I wanted my skin to be perfect for him. I got myself to at least pick less frequently (until he managed to put himself in the hospital and now I'm back to scratching myself raw).
This is more of a "you're not alone" reply than anything else. Sorry I'm not more help.
You would think that after that type of experience I would stop picking........ but instead of my face now I attack my feet and fingers more. I'm 25 now and my face has cleared up, but now my fingers are dry, cracked, scabby, and bleeding.. and my feet are so raw it hurts to walk. It drives my fiance nuts! How do I stop this madness?!?!
I wax my legs now so it's not so much of a problem. Find out if you can do this. I now have almost no growth on the ankle area and the red bumps I used to have have leared up. Now I can even shave if I have not had time to wax (like if I am invited to go swimming at the last moment) and it doesn't grow back QUITE so thick/dark.
Good luck and if you need any advice pm me.
I hope this isn't self-mutilation. I didn't think there was anyting wrong with me.
I've done this since (last I remember) I was 4. Back then I'd chew off my toenails, too. My mom used to yell at me to stop, but 16 years later I still haven't. I don't bite my toenails, but I do go at them with tweezers or something like that to get the dirt out from the sides... and usually end up tearing off some skin. I used to cut (not bite) my toenails so short that you couldn't even see the nail, it was just exposed skin. They never came back in right, especially my pinky toes. My nails on both hands and feet are all really messed up. And the sad thing is, I was biting and picking at my fingernails and hangnails throughout reading this entire thread.
Ugh! I think for me it's a stress/anxiety/fidgety-type habit. I'm always swinging my legs or tapping my foot because I have a hard time sitting still. I have an office job that I despise and an apartment all by myself so I get bored and lonely and often resort to tearing at my skin or binge-eating. Though for my health, I prefer the chewing of fingers. I don't think skin has that many calories. LOL. It's funny but just sick and wrong and a BAD, UNRELENTING HABIT at the same time. Oh, to be normal. Ha, that'll never happen for me (what's normal anyway?) but I'd like to have more self-control and more deep-down, pure, genuine, happiness and peace with myself.
I have a mild form of that, not so bad that my arms are completely mutiliated, but i picked the skin off my feet [not til they bleed though], however i constantly am at my fingers, and have to wear gloves [even in summer] to try and prevent myself, or else i'd have no fingers left, probably just bone =P
I also pick my lips, and as someone else was saying, any lump in my skin that I feel isn't meant to be there.
There are ways of stopping it - cognitive behavioural therapy, but i've tried it.
I just hope I might grow out of it one day.... *wishful thinking*
I do the same thing. I hear people talk about cuticles all the time, but honestly, I'm not even sure of what they are. Most likely, I probably don't have any.